Feminine Energy Isn’t a Game: It’s Emotional Honesty

Feminine Energy is a huge topic involving some misconceptions that I want to clear up. Feminine Energy often used in dating and has become surface level information that people use and don’t fully understand. For example, you might hear a coach talk about creating space (such as an energetic space to allow the masculine energy to feel pulled toward the feminine).

Women mistake this idea with going no contact for a few days to hope that the man they are interested in will come forward once she takes a few steps back. But this is not feminine energy.

It also doesn’t mean being half interested but leading him on anyway because it feeds your ego. That’s called a mind game.

So no, this is not feminine energy and that is actually the opposite of what I’m about to tell you. Leaning back doesn’t mean your closed off from the masculine energy or taking steps back to hope for a change in behaviour.

Feminine energy is receptive and that means you are honest and open when the masculine does come forward but you choose not to chase him. Your also clear about your intentions without obsessing about him. I hope that makes sense.

And the space part? The space is intended so that you can actually feel if this man is making effort consistently and if your wanting a relationship based on polarity. If you want a masculine energy man, he will naturally want to consistently show up without you having to change his behaviour.

This means you aren’t the one taking charge of arranging plans to meet up or you're also not waiting around hoping he will meet you on Friday when he didn’t even set the date or create a plan to see you.

The space will allow you to give the masculine a chance with following through on their word (that is if you want polarity) so essentially your no chasing him or controlling his actions. You're letting him make up his mind if he’s into you or not and he feels enough for the relationship to keep to his promises. And just like a rubber band, if your leaning back this indicates trust, and a man loves feeling like he’s trusted.

Feminine Energy in dating is about feeling into your desires and expressing them. If you want to enjoy the present moment and focus on things that makes you happy and excited about life rather than controlling the outcome then this is the path for you.

It’s about having emotional intelligence, recognising your emotions and expressing them even when it scares the hell out of you and the healthy masculine’s stability will feel stable enough to handle your emotions.

And if your aware of the dynamic from the start of the relationship and you feel safe enough to express your feelings then you will both be predictable (no guessing games) which creates more safety in the relationship. So, it’s about creating a healthy relationship, one that feels juicy and can last if you're the kind of woman who loves being pursued, feel cherished and craves stability from their partner.

You practice communication and boundaries with warmth early on. You become conscious that you aren’t being pulled into a game where you're chasing him and becoming addicted to him even when deep down you don’t want that dynamic.

So, you create the space and claim your feminine essence so you can make space for a healthy masculine energy partner to enter your life on his terms. He shows you he desires you consistently through his actions and not just his words. You don’t ever try to convince a man you’re special. He falls in love with you because he feels your heart when he comes close to you. He can feel you are letting him in and not pushing him away. This is intimacy.

You allow space so that you can see what feels good to you. Does he show up in a way that feels good. You notice that the more conscious you become, you feel turned off by men who are inconsistent with his actions, behave hot and cold where as before you overlooked all of this and came up with justifications because you were addicted to him.

You might notice you once felt turned on by men who didn’t put enough effort, or he put a lot of effort and stopped all sudden. You would wonder what happened?

Once you created space and stopped the urgent feelings to dictate your reactions, you suddenly noticed that your actually feeling turned on by stability, consistency and integrity so men who once made you feel something, you no longer feel anything for them.

This means your changing your patterns and starting to listen to your intuition and that is the power of feminine energy.